It’s the Holiday Season: So, Where’s The Magic?
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The holiday season can bring up many emotions. For parents, Christmas can also bring pressure from many different directions: family gatherings, finding the “right” gifts, and creating special memories and traditions that our children will cherish for years to come. So what if you aren’t Martha Stewart and the holidays don’t look like a Norman Rockwell painting? So what if you just can’t “get it together” to produce those tear-worthy memories and one-of-a-kind crafts with your children? That’s okay.
1. Take the pressure off of yourself! Try to focus on one special tradition and come to grips with the fact that you can’t do it all (and keep your sanity also). The reindeer cookies or homemade Santa village just may not happen. Your children will not be traumatized!
2. Personalize giving. Allow your children to think of someone you know who may need something, or have your children help make cookies or bread to take to your neighbors. They will truly enjoy how giving to others makes them feel (and you will be proud watching them experience this).
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3. Try to enjoy the simple things. Looking at Christmas lights and listening to holiday music with your children are simple ways to celebrate the holiday season. They will find joy in just being with you and enjoying these simple (and free) activities!
4. Take your cues from your children. Talk to them about what the holidays mean to them and ideas of what makes the season special for them. You may be surprised to hear that it stretches beyond the gifts they receive.
Remember, too, that your child’s undesirable behaviors will still occur (and probably increase as your stress increases!). Be sure to continue the familiar routines and behavioral interventions that you regularly implement to manage those behaviors. The holidays can be a special time, just remember to keep your expectations of yourself, your children, and the season realistic. Happy Holidays!
Paula Morse, LPC
